5 Top Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted in the Lifestyle
- Establish Clear Communication Early
- Make sure you’re on the same page with your potential playmate(s). Setting expectations about when, where, and how you’ll meet helps build commitment and avoids last-minute cancellations.
- Confirm Details in Advance
- As the meeting day approaches, send a friendly message to reconfirm details. A simple, “Looking forward to seeing you!” can reduce ghosting likelihood by affirming your mutual excitement.
- Look for Consistent Effort
- Pay attention to consistency in messaging. If someone is only replying sporadically or taking days to respond, it may be a sign they’re not committed. Look for partners who show consistent interest and excitement.
- Choose Public Meeting Spots First
- Suggest meeting in a public spot, like a bar or a lounge, for a relaxed vibe. This can make people feel more at ease and less pressured, leading to fewer last-minute flake-outs.
- Be Direct About Your Interest Level
- Make sure to express your interest and what you’re looking forward to in the meet-up! Showing your genuine excitement can help build their interest and commitment too.
5 Top Tips for Staying Positive When Swinger Plans Don’t Work Out
- Remember, It’s Not Personal
- Sometimes life gets in the way, and plans fall through. Remind yourself that everyone has different circumstances, and a canceled date or party flop doesn’t reflect on your worth.
- Focus on the Fun of the Moment
- Even if things don’t go as expected, embrace the present! Whether it’s laughing about it with your partner or chatting with new people at an event, finding joy in the moment keeps your spirits up.
- Learn from Each Experience
- If a plan doesn’t pan out, reflect on what you might do differently next time. Embracing each experience as a learning opportunity can help you fine-tune your future swinging adventures.
- Celebrate Your Openness and Confidence
- Just putting yourself out there in the lifestyle is a huge accomplishment! Take a moment to appreciate your own courage and growth, regardless of the outcome.
- Stay Flexible and Laugh It Off
- The best part of lifestyle events is their unpredictability. Allow yourself to go with the flow, and don’t be afraid to laugh at the unexpected. It’s all part of the adventure!
Catch the Full Episode Here
In this episode of the Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, we dive into those inevitable moments when swinging doesn’t go quite as planned—from pool party flops to being ghosted by potential playmates. Whether it’s a lackluster event or a no-show date, these experiences can feel discouraging, but don’t worry! We’ve gathered our top tips for avoiding ghosting and staying positive when things don’t go smoothly. Tune in to the episode below, and read on for some useful advice.
With these tips in mind, you can keep things light and enjoyable, even when swinging throws a curveball. Don’t forget to listen to the full episode to hear our personal stories of ghosting and swinger fails, plus more advice on how to stay upbeat when things don’t go as planned.