When I first heard the term “swingers hotel takeover,” my mind ran wild with possibilities. It sounded like something out of a hot Game of Thrones episode or something you read about in Roman/Greek history, or a daring adventure that could push the boundaries of fun and freedom. Was it a luxurious retreat where like-minded, sexy people gathered to indulge in their desires? Or maybe it was a playful yet intimate weekend where connections were made, and fantasies were explored behind closed doors.
The idea itself was intoxicating yet shrouded in mystery—so many ways it could unfold, all depending on the people and the planners behind the scenes.
Over time, I’ve learned that not all hotel takeovers are created equal. Some hit all the right notes, while others might leave you with more questions than answers. What makes one event sparkle with excitement while another falls flat? That’s what I’m diving into—and I’d love to hear your thoughts too.
What I Thought Was the Bare Minimum…
I’ll admit, I had some preconceived notions about what exactly was a Swingers Hotel Takeover. In my mind, I thought they were low-key—maybe even a little trashy but definitely DTF. I pictured something more of a “sexy costume party” than sophisticated affair: a room filled with strangers in sexy outfits, with music thumping from a DJ who seemed more focused on volume than vibe. All at a hotel my wife and I probably wouldn’t book for ourselves on a regular weekend.
But then again, there was the allure! The thought of being surrounded by open-minded, sex-positive people—people who aren’t afraid to embrace their desires and make bold connections—had its appeal.
Even if the venue and event were just “okay,” I figured the energy would more than make up for it. And honestly, isn’t that what we’re all looking for? The thrill of a shared experience, the connection that can spark between strangers who are all there for the same reason?
My Experience at a Recent NYE Swingers Hotel Takeover in Dallas
My wife and I arrived the day before the NYE party with another couple, excited to see what the event had in store. Parking was easy enough once we cracked the code on the pricing, though I would’ve appreciated a heads-up in the group chat. Once inside, we were greeted by a few people who might have been event staff, though no one made it clear.
We were handed wristbands—perhaps a little unnecessary due to the lack of security checking for them, but it was part of the process—before heading up to our room to unpack and relax.
The first stop was the pool, based on the chat in the SDC group chat. But when we arrived, the place was empty. A quick shift in plans, and we were headed to the hotel restaurant to grab a bite before the evening’s meet-and-greet. Surprise—closed. So, we ended up back in the car and off to a local spot to fill our bellies.
When we returned, the vibe still hadn’t fully taken shape. It wasn’t until later in the evening that we felt the pulse of the event pick up, but even then, it was hit or miss. There wasn’t much of a “buzz” in the air—no music or atmosphere to get us in the mood.
But we kept an open mind, deciding to make the best of it and dive into the night.
What did surprise me, in a pleasant way, were the “extras” the event offered. While I wasn’t in need of these services, I couldn’t help but admire the thoughtfulness behind them. Haircuts, IV treatments, boudoir photography, body painting, and instant NYE photo printing were all available for attendees. The insta-photo may have been the best as we all forgot to take pictures of our amazing outfits that night! These little touches made a big difference and kept the vibe sexy yet laid-back, making it feel like more than just a party. However, the lack of planning and making all of these services well known in the chat group or elsewhere, likely rendered most of those services worthless.
As for the hotel itself? Well, it was decent—not overly glamorous, but not shabby either. That said, I think the event team could’ve done more to turn the space into something truly exciting. The theme, for instance, didn’t do much for me—it had a kind of “meh” factor that didn’t exactly scream “sexy.” There was never a wait for drinks though, which made up for areas that were lacking.
The party was another mixed bag. At times, the dance floor was alive with energy, bodies swaying together to the beat. Other times, though, it felt almost awkward, like the music wasn’t hitting the right notes. Someone even threw in a request:
“Can we get something other than ‘80s rock? Not exactly sexy…”
Honestly, I couldn’t agree more.
The crowd, though—WOW. Attractive, fit, and full of people who clearly knew what they were there for. That said, the mingling was minimal. If you’re looking to hook up, bring your A-game as time is definitely a factor. The options were abundant, but if you’re someone who likes to ease into connections, it might feel a little overwhelming.
My wife and I quickly realized that a weekend like this would be way less enjoyable if we were on our own. We’re not the type to dive into a conversation—we like to hang back and let things come to us. Having another couple there made all the difference.
However, if you’re a go-getter and dress nice, you can for sure have success at a takeover like that.
One aspect that felt out of place was the presence of armed police officers as security. While I appreciate measures to protect our lifestyle, the vibe came across as if they were ‘protecting us from ourselves’ rather than shielding us from the public. It created some unease in an otherwise carefree environment. Concerning my earlier comment regarding wristbands, I observed that there wasn’t a single instance of someone being checked for theirs.
What I Now Value Most
That experience taught me a lot about what really matters when it comes to a Swingers Hotel Takeover. Now, I value things like thoughtful planning, clear communication, and an event team that knows how to create a welcoming, inclusive, safe, and sexy vibe. The venue itself is important too—things like a great layout, spacious areas, and easy access to key spots can make or break the event. A great hotel staff? Absolutely essential. The right staff can elevate the experience, ensuring everything flows smoothly and with an air of professionalism.
What really stands out to me now, though, are the details that set the tone for the whole event.
Background music, a well-thought-out theme, and those little extras—like offering body painting or personal photo shoots—make the difference between an event that feels like just a party and one that leaves you with unforgettable memories.
But most of all, what I value most is the ability to build meaningful connections. Hotel takeover events, or any lifestyle event really, are an opportunity to grow your tribe. Over the years, we’ve met some amazing people, and those connections have led to vacations, mini takeovers with friends, and a true sense of community that makes these events unforgettable.
What About You?
So now I’m curious—what about you all? Before your first event, what did you think a hotel takeover would be like? And what do you look for now? Has your perspective evolved the same way mine has? What do you value the most when attending these types of events?
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Author: Ronald
Originally Posted in the Libertine Connect community